Sunday, October 14, 2012

Home...

Sixteen days ago, you came into this world kicking and screaming. You have been a fighter, my little warrior, since the beginning. You have gone through the most complex open heart surgery there is and here you are... No tubes, no wires... Just a feeding tube and a pulse ox. Luka, you are kicking some serious HLHS ass. And because of that, there are talks of us going home. Soon. Like...At the end of the week soon. Holy crap.

I am so... Happy. Sad. Scared. Excited. Home. The five of us. In our home. I want us to be together but I'm worried. What if you forget to breathe? What if your heart stops? Here, we are safe. Here, I have help if I'm clueless. Home is 2 hours away. Home is so far away if something happens. Ugh.

I'm learning how to feed you. A healthy baby... Well, a healthy baby would just breastfeed. You on the other hand need a fortifier added to pumped breastmilk to give you extra calories. A healthy baby would be able to eat as long as they want but you have 20 minutes to swallow down 50mL or the rest goes in the feeding tube. The reason you only get 20 minutes is because after that, you're burning more calories than you are consuming so eating basically becomes pointless. This is all so hard. So new to me. But I'll do this because you are so worth it.

You are the sweetest little guy. Everyone just adores you. You've amazed your doctors and nurses. And Mommy and Daddy. We love you so very much.

Keep fighting Luka. We'll be home... SOON!

Saturday, October 6, 2012

One Week...

In your one week of life, you have endured more than anyone typically experiences.  Luka, you are so strong and brave.  I love you so very much.  Today, you are one week old.  Yesterday, you had your first of 3 open heart surgeries.  The procedure was called the Norwood.  Here's a little info on what the surgery is about...
Results with staged reconstruction for children with The Norwood operation is the most complex and highest risk procedure in the sequence of staged reconstruction for Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. Current management at major pediatric heart centers has resulted in survival rates of 75 percent or better.
The recovery period in the hospital following the Norwood operation is often unpredictable and complicated, averaging about 3 to 4 weeks. A small percentage of patients who leave the hospital may continue to experience significant problems in the first months of life.
Occasionally, the right ventricle does not function well following the Norwood operation and in some case, cardiac transplantation may need to be considered.
If a child with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome reaches the time for the second stage (about 4 to 6 months of age) without major complications, the survival through the Glenn and Fontan operations are much better, exceeding 90 percent with current methods.
Almost all children with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome will continue to need some cardiac medications to maximize the efficient function of their heart, and all will require regular periodic follow-up visits with their cardiologist to evaluate their cardiac function and detect late complications such as arrhythmias.

http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/h/hlhs/

So, basically, you just went through the most complex surgery out there.  And you're still here with us.  That is so awesome!  You're still on the ECMO.  Here's some info on that...

What is ECMO?

ECMO stands for Extracorporeal Membrane Oxygenation.  ECMO is used only after medicine and a breathing machine (ventilator) have failed to make your loved one better.  During ECMO, patients appear to be better, but you need to know that the person is still very sick.  Your loved one needs the ECMO machine for life support.

The ECMO machine works for the heart and lungs.  It is the same heart/lung machine used for open-heart surgery.  When your loved one is placed on ECMO, blood will flow through the ECMO tubing where it receives oxygen from the machine’s lung.  This happens until the heart and/or lungs are able to work on their own.

The ECMO Machine

Blood flows through the tubes, by gravity, and is pushed along by the turning motion of the pump.  How fast the blood goes depends on how fast the pump turns.  This flow number may be high at the beginning meaning the machine is doing most of the work.  As your loved one gets better, the flow will slowly be decreased because less support is needed.  The amount of time this takes depends on how the heart and lungs heal.  Beyond the pump, the blood goes to the machine’s lung that puts oxygen in the blood and takes out carbon dioxide.  The blood is then warmed to body temperature and given back to your loved one through the arterial or one portion of the tube.  You will notice that the blood coming from your loved one will be dark because it contains little oxygen.  The blood going back in will be bright red because it carries lots of oxygen.  The blood is taken out and given back at the same speed so your loved one’s body doesn’t miss the blood going through the tubing.

http://www.uwhealth.org/healthfacts/B_EXTRANET_HEALTH_INFORMATION-FlexMember-Show_Public_HFFY_1109725221094.html

Right now, things are quite scary.  You have tubes and wires everywhere and your room is full of machines that are keeping you alive.  Mommy wondered if she was doing the right thing...By making you suffer.  Your chest is wide open...They won't close it for a few days because the risks of surgery include your heart swelling and bleeding...Plus, if for any reason they need to do more surgery, your little tiny chest is already open so they can get in there quick to try and save you.  I am allowing doctors to do all this stuff to you because I want you to live.  You can't tell me if that's what you want, so I am choosing life for you and hoping that this is what you want as well.  I had the options to terminate the pregnancy...Which, even if they said you'd live 2 hours, I would have never terminated my pregnancy.  That was never an option in my mind.  The other option was to give birth and let nature run its course and allow you to peacefully pass away.  I couldn't do that because the doctors told me there was a chance you could be saved...The process would be a long and difficult one but your chances of survival were fairly decent.  These surgeries are mostly done while you are very little and won't likely remember so we chose to give you a shot at life...Because really, what parent wouldn't want their baby to live?  Very few choose abortion or compassionate care. 

One of these days, Mommy will get around to writing your birth story.  Today just isn't that day.  Today...I am just hanging out at the Ronald McDonald House and the hospital.  Daddy and I relocated down here to be near you because I couldn't stand to be away from you.  Ashton and Zephyr are staying with your Grandparents and I will pick them up once you are off ECMO and breathing on your own.  I can't wait until that day comes. 

Baby boy, Mommy and Daddy love you so so much.  Keep up the great work.  Continue to fight because I miss holding you. 

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Consent...

Well, I am sitting here in your room and I'm watching you sleep... You look so peaceful. Not a care in the world. You don't know that tomorrow, you will be going through one of three major life saving surgeries.

I just talked to the anesthesiologist and signed the consent for your sedation. I signed the paperwork for you to participate in a research study... Only because it might help some other little someday.

This is so hard little dude. I cried so many tears before you were born but now that you are here and you've laid asleep in my arms and I've gotten to fall in love with you and your wrinkled head and huge feet, I'm crying a lot more. I am scared out of my mind Luka. Terrified of what the next few days are gonna bring. I have all the hope in the world you'll make it but I'm still scared. 

Oh Luka.. I love you. So so much.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Home...

I posted a status on Facebook earlier that said something about home being where the heart is and if that's the case, home is in room 411 of the CICU at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh. You didn't wait the weekend. You came into the world kicking and screaming at 1:53pm on September 29, 2012. You were my littlest little weighing just 6 pounds 5 ounces and measuring 17.5 inches. Mommy went to three doctor and He sent me down to Magee because He just knew you were coming.

Luka...I told you to wait. I wanted an October baby. You are already being a stinker and not listening. But...you picked your birthday. You chose World Heart Day to make your grand entrance. I couldn't be more in love. You look JUST LIKE your Daddy. It's so amazing. I'm so glad you're here.

I'm sitting in your room watching you sleep. You look like an angel. You are so beautiful. I am amazed at just how perfect you look. You wouldn't even know you were sick had we not gotten a diagnosis while you were still in Mommy's belly.

Today, you are four days old. Today, I got to feed you for the first time. I've been religiously popping fenugreek and brewers yeast pills to bring in my milk and pumping like crazy for you. It's no big deal. I hate pumping but know just how vital breastmilk is for you. You're so worth all the time and effort. I won't ever give up on you. You and your brothers are my entire world.

I could get used to Pittsburgh. Convincing Daddy might be hard to do. But I wanna as move closer to be near the hospital for you. Just in case. You'll have to help me win this one, handsome man. :)

I love you to the ends of the Earth and back again my full moon baby. :)